The Law and Sex
The age of consent (for sex) is 16 in England & Jersey.
If you are 16 or over and both parties are in agreement, then
it's not illegal.
The age of consent for two men or two women having sex is
16 as long as they both agree to the sexual activity.
It's thought unlikely that two under 16's who are consenting
will be prosecuted but it is illegal and prosecution is
It is a criminal offence for a person of 16 years or over to
engage in sexual activity with a person under 16.
For loads of great information on all aspects of sexual heath
check out the SEXPERIENCE website
No method of contraception is perfect, but some are a lot more
effective than others.
If you are going to have sex and don't want to get pregnant, you
really need to work out the best and most effective method of
contraception for you.
The responsibilty should be a joint one!
The reality for most young women is that they are usually the
ones bearing the consequences of an early, unplanned pregnancy.
The truth is you can get pregnant when you have sex for the
first time, in whatever position, if either of you don't have na
orgasm, or if the bloke pulls out before he cums.
You can get pregnant if you have sex during your period and even
if you douche afterwards (squirt water into the vagina).
Douching can be harmful to women too!
Bear in mind that even with very careful use, there is usually
some risk of pregnancy with most methods of contraception.
Keep your genital apart and sperm and egss strangers if you want
to eliminate risk totally!
Community Contraception Service & Well Women
You can find a wide range of different contraceptives available
to you including implants, pills, condoms and IUDs. Book your
appointment today to protect yourself from sexually transmitted
diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
The Community Contraception Service
The Community Contraception
Service provides advice and supplies all methods
of contraception. Referrals for termination of pregnancy and advice
on sexual health is also offered. Condoms are available free of
charge under the Condom Distribution Scheme.
Contact Details and Opening times
Well Women Clinic
Well Women clinics are run mainly for cervical screening tests
but also offer tests for sexually transmitted infections. Both
clinics are confidential and open to women of all ages. They are
held at La Bas Centre and are staffed by female doctors, nurses and
Contact the clinic at La Bas directly on tel: (01534)
443781 to arrange an appointment.
The cost of appointments or prescriptions varies depending on
your age and the service required.
Have you had unprotected sex or do you think that your
contraception may have failed?
If you act quickly, emergency contraception can usually prevent
pregnancy, but it must be used within 3 days (72 hours) of
unprotected sex, and the earlier you take it the more effective it
It should be taken as soon as possible after unprotected
Sometimes a doctor might fit a coil, which can be fitted within
5 days as an alternative.
You can get emergency contraception free from any young person's
clinic or Brook (under 21's), or the Family Planning Clinic.
Hospitals A & E departments will provide it when there are
no sexual health clinics open.
Many local chemists can also provide emergency conraception,
though it would be best to phone and check first. There will be a
cost to this too!
You can buy emergency contraception at most chemists if you are
over 16, though it is available in some areas to under 16's. Be
prepared to answer questions!
If you feel you need emergency contraception, seek it out as
soon as possible.
It is worth remebering that it is not as effective as using
other methods of contraception regularly.
You can get information on where to get emergenct contraception
Brook Tel: (01534) 507981
or drop in: Monday 3.30 - 7pm; Tuesday 3.30 - 7pm;
Wednesday 12 - 3pm, Thursday 3.30 - 7pm; Saturday 11am -
You can also contact:
The Family Planning Clinic Tel: (01534)
Enjoying your own body (Masturbation)
Masturbation means touching/stroking your own genitals for
sexual relief and pleasure.
It's perfectly harmless and many people (both female and male)
do it simply for the pleasure.
It is a good way of getting to know your own body, where you are
most sensitive and what you like.
Using a lubricant can make masturbation easier and more
Some people don't masturbate at all and that's fine too.
It is sometimes called wanking, fingering and other names. If
you do this together with someone else it's sometimes called mutual
If you are male and female, keep genitals apart, body fluids
seperate and you won't get pregnant!
Whoever you are - take car not to pass on or pick up
You'll hear about orgasms in different ways, 'comin', 'cumming',
It's sort of the ultimate in sexual pleasure, and usually comes
about by masturbation or other sexual activity.
For males, ejaculation (the spurting of fluid including semen
and sperm from the penis) is the usual outcome of orgasm.
Some women also experience a release of fluid (sometimes known
as female ejaculation), though most women have orgasms without
Don't worry if you find having an orgasm difficult, it may just
be that you aren't relaxed enough, or the right buttons haven't
been pushed yet.
It's quite normal, get to know what feels good and build on
Some people find that they 'come' quicker that they'd like when
they are with another person. Try to slow things down if possible,
and talk through any concerns you have with your partner if you
Don't forget that thousands of sperm can seep out before the man
ejaculates and it only takes one to fertalise an egg.
Think about sexually transmitted infections; use a condom or a
dental dam! Or else keep male and female genitals apart.
Pornography (porn) is available in lots of forms, all of which
are visual and intended to cause sexual excitement.
Most porn fils, websites and magaznes are aimed at over
Some pronography is illegal, and people are regularly charged
with offences after creating, downloading or passing it on.
An example would be child pornography; this is clearly a form of
It's worth thinking about the way people are portrayed in
There is a view that porn leads to people (most often women) and
their role in society being portrayed in a negative light.
There is a view that the porn industry exploits the people who
are in it, and that the exploitation is supported by those who use,
buy or view it.
Others think that porn serves a purpose in society. Views on
this topic vary widely.
Some adults and children who have been used by the industy are
left with deep emotional scars.
If you feel you have been expolited or want to talk about this
further, then you can ring:
Childline Tel: 0800 1111
Survivors UK (for men) Tel: 0845 122
Internet Encounters/Cyber Sex
The internet is used by some people to develop relationships of
all different kinds, usually in chat rooms or by email. Used
safely, the internet can be fantastic.
When relationships develop this way, it's very difficult to be
sure exactly who you are chatting to.
Some people try to turn their conversation into one of a sexual
nature, but it's hard to be sure if that person who tells you they
are 2 years older than you and into exactly the same things,
isn't really a ver different person.
Be careful; never get pressured into talking about things that
you don't want to.
Other people send photos via the internet, sometimes they can be
different than you want or expect.
Decide exactly what sort of thins you want to talk about, and
don't be pressured into things you don't want.
Remember you can always cut a conversation off. Beware of giving
out any personal details.
It's more difficult to stop people contacting you at home if
you've given out your home phone number or address - so don't do
ome people have had bad experiences through doing this.
Even more risky is meeting with someone. If you are tempted to
do this think carefully through the risks.
Resist the temptation to meet someone if you can!
If you do decide to meet anybody, make sure you only meet in a
public place and that somebody knows where you are.
For more information on staying safe online check