Love & Sex

Becoming a Sexual Person

Are you thinking about sex and your sexuality?

It isn't unusual to have worries about sex and sexuality, and it might seem that your mates know more than you do, but they probably don't.

You might find it difficult to talk about sex with people you know , but there are other ways to find information, such as on the web, information services, helplines, leaflets or books.

The one thing to remember is, don't do anything you don't want to.

Sex can be a wonderful thing, in the right situation, if you are safe and ready.

The flip side to that is it may not be as you expected, particularly if you aren't ready or feel under pressure.

You might believe tat sex outside a committed relationship or marriage shouldn't happen. Well stick to your beliefs ~ they make you, YOU!

If you do decide to take things a step further, you need to feel able to change your mind, to start and then stop if you want to, and your partner needs to feel this too.

It's a real skill to negotiate around sex, what you want to happen, and what you don't.

Make sure you choose a partner with whom you share mutual respect.

If either of you want to ease off, or stop, remember NO really does mean NO!

Celibacy

Some people make a conscious decision not to have sex, or are celibate.

Being celibate doesn't have to be for a lifetime, some people have periods of celibacy.

There are different reasons for choosing celibacy, sometimes there are religious elements to it and sometimes there aren't; sometimes it's just about personal circumstances.

You might decide that you won't have sex before marriage or ever! Some people just decide that sex isn't the be-all and end-all for them, and that life can be flfilling without it.

If you don't want to have sex, that's fine ~ stick to what you want, or don't want!

For more information on contraception, sexual expression & STI's - go to the Health section on this website